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Why it's Hard to Turn me Off!

Updated: Jan 23, 2019


Photo By: Brian Johnson


Hello, hello, hello!

If you follow me on Instagram and you follow my stories you should be well informed that I'm working on my first Book. Yaaaaay! My book will share my journey, thoughts, research and experience on Sex, Love and Intimacy. Within my book I explore my own sexuality, whilst I research findings on loves influence in relationships and what intimacy is in a digital world.

With all of that being said, I want to introduce you all to something a lot more personal and in line with my purpose as a first time published author. My title for this blog is self explanatory "Why its hard to Turn me Off".

I was driving home a few days ago thinking about my exes and wondering why it didn't work out with any of them. Truth is, I held on to a lot of these relationships longer than I needed to. Partially because I have terrible communications skills and partially because I didn't truly know my worth.

As I was driving I said to myself "Wow, its hard to turn me off" even after all that I have been through, I am still a believer in a relationship working because two imperfect people choose to not give up on each other.

Through betrayal and bad break ups I am still hopeful in love but my relationships truly humbled me. They taught me that there is no perfect partner. There were good and bad in every relationship. In acknowledging the ups and downs I've been able to find the balance between finding the one and also knowing that he isn't a knight and shining armor. The Disney fairy-tale has caused a lot of heartache for millennial women. The idea and belief that the prince in perfect when the reality is partners are not designed to be perfect.

We are all created imperfectly to come together in times of wants and needs. In realizing this I happily have a realistic outlook on relationships. Knowing that my partner is not my primary solace for happiness nor is perfection realistic, I understand that partnership is an extension of love.

While I do admire my ability to hold on to hope for love and I know its hard to turn me off, I also realize that as I age ever so gracefully like wine, it takes a lot to turn me on. So for every part of me that won't get turned off it takes a whole lot to turn me on!


If you enjoyed this ready, leave your comments below and let me know what you think and what turns you on or off about a partner.


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